My goal as a coach is to get you from where you are to where you want to be - as quickly and easily as possible! You determine a goal and together we Blast Through the Barriers that are preventing you from reaching your heart’s desire with practical action, specific plans, brainstorming and open-ended inquiry. With my two master's degrees in biology and psychology, my clinical hypnotherapy credential and my twenty years of Life Coach experience, I am your ideal partner!
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Who have I coached in my twenty years?
- Losing weight [frequently combined with hypnotherapy, see Weight Loss
- Getting serious about nutrition or exercise
- Dealing with a chronic or serious disease
- Being a caretaker for an elder or an ill family member
- purpose and direction
- “something’s wrong and I don’t know what to do”
Career direction or career specifics
- Shorten your career search with expert search and interview help
- College students, choosing a career and life direction
- Military re-integration into civilian life
- Career changes, at midlife, retirement, layoffs
- Making the transition to small business ownership
Midlife questions for men and women
- Menopause without hormones
- Life shifts/unsettled feelings
- Relationship questions
- Re-imagining your life
Preparing for retirement, in more than financial ways
If you have never worked with a Coach before:
Frequently Asked Questions About Coaching
Career and Business: Do you need coaching or do you need consulting? Are these just semantics?
Not really, on that latter question. I do both and sometimes I segue from one to another in the same session. But I always know what I am doing. They are not the same.
A couple of weeks ago, a guy decided not to become a client because I can’t teach him how to tweet. Instead of getting defensive [a beginner’s reaction] or going into objection-overcoming sales mode [very annoying], I asked him why he thought a coach would be the place to go to learn how to use Twitter. He explained that he wanted someone who was “very knowledgeable.”
The light dawned. And I explained to him that a consultant is someone with content knowledge, who imparts that knowledge to you, or who you outsource part of the deliverable to. So a social media consultant could teach you how to tweet.
A coach is a totally different animal. We sometimes tweet [oh, you saw that coming, you know you did] but we don’t tell you what to do. A person who is telling you what to do is consulting for you. You are paying them to give you information that you didn’t have. A coach assumes that you will know what to do, or know how to research to find specific information, once we do OUR magic, which is focusing your mind, heart and soul on the process of figuring out what you really want and how to get there. We ask you discerning questions, you take some steps forward, we ask more questions, you see where you need to research. Some days pass. We get back together and we work some more. A coach polishes your rough stone until you understand what you need to do. A coach sees you as a brilliant stone in need of having the gunk chipped away so it can shine brightly. A consultant sees you as an empty vessel that needs to be filled up with his/her brilliant insights.
The reason I sometimes switch from coach to consultant is that pure coaching gets you where you’re going a lot slower than simply telling you what I know, or teaching you how to do something – so sometimes I tell instead of coaching, if I think you really need to get past an impasse quickly. The glory of pure coaching is that the client knows s/he figured it out themselves but there are days when “oh, please, just get on with the solution” is even more glorious.
So I helped Mr. Tweet with some ideas on how to find someone who consults on social media, and sent him on his way. He’ll never find out that I know how to tweet and have a Twitter account but prefer blogs to micro-blogs. It was a coach who helped me figure that out!
How do I Choose Between Coaching, Consulting and Therapy?
I do all three of these in varying amounts in my practice, segueing from one to another as needed during the course of the session. It’s my strength. You don’t need three experts on your team. You do need to know why I might switch from one to another on a dime, as it were.
Everyone knows what a consultant is. A consultant is someone who is an expert in some field whom you hire to do a job for you, or to train you or tell you what to do in a particular situation. It’s the fastest, easiest way to get anything done.
Coaching is a relatively new occupation, and one that has become very popular, primarily because it allows people to talk about what’s bothering them without incurring the [idiotic, outmoded] stigma of being “crazy.” Men, who hate talking to therapists because they abhor the implied loss of control, are flocking to coaches. Another reason for the popularity of coaching is that it allows a person to connect with a partner in solving a problem – getting a new job, being more successful in a small business, losing weight – that medicine isn’t interested in or is obviously unsuited for, and for which people have been left pretty much on their own to struggle with. A therapist is a professional mental health practitioner and generally accepts the medical worldview that there is something wrong with you and we’re gonna fix you. Therapists work with people who are truly mentally ill, and also with generally-mentally-healthy people who want to work on a problem with a professional who is bound by serious professional-medical confidentiality laws.
Therapy is medicine and when done well, can change lives. I do clinical hypnotherapy for my coaching clients who need deep work to blast away emotional blockages or to become aware of what their deep wisdom is trying to tell them about a situation. It is also the fastest way to address habits, addictions, traumas and losses, behavior changes. Hypnotherapy is a specialty form of therapy; one can be licensed as a hypnotherapist without being licensed for mainstream talk therapy, and vice verse. Talk therapy, which I am not licensed to do, comes in a wider variety of forms than could be listed here; some encourage you to express and heal hurts and emotions while others are more directive in helping you to purge unproductive thought patterns.
Coaching comes from the place that says that you, the client, are wise and magnificent. You know what to do. All you need is to have a skilled partner who can guide you with the right questions, and provide serious accountability. Coaching is not medical and coaches cannot work with seriously disturbed or truly mentally ill persons. It is not state licensed and in fact, nearly anyone can call themselves a coach – although not everyone can, as I can, claim to be certified. Real professional Life Coaches have advanced degrees in psychology or a related field and take a coaching training program of considerable length, with clinicals, tests and required supervision before they are allowed to practice independently. Some folks – I kid you not – become “Life Coaches” in a weekend with absolutely no academic degree, clinicals, supervision or testing. They are the stuff of late-night talk show jokes and general contempt. Sadly, many people don’t know that real professional Life Coaches exist.
To summarize, a coach guides you to be the expert, the consultant IS the expert, and therapy is medicine.